So hard!!

It is so hard to NOT help Aaron find something. The reason I'm not helping is because he's not looking hard enough. And I'm not just being a unloving mom and too hard on him. He's made this mess:

In about 5 minutes, over a 10 minute time period because he keeps going back to the living room to watch Super Why. He's not concentrating.

He's trying to find the super-awesome Spider-man figurine (it's about 10 inches tall) that he got from his reading buddy yesterday at school. 

Recently I've determined I help him (and her) too much! And it creates a lot of drama, mainly because they get frustrated and upset if they can't conquer their quest in 2.4 seconds without my help. And that's not okay! I'm not going to be there all the time to help them compete a task forever. Aaron has some awesome tasks he's been doing for a while now, #1 being unloading the dishwasher. And now he's a master dishwasher empty-er!! Cleaning up their okay room (which, over the last year, has decreased by half) which always seems to go from 0 to 60 in 3.2 seconds. And then they complain about how long it takes to clean it up. Then the typical conversation ensues:

"It's gonna take me forEVer!!!"

"No it won't"

"It already is!! :whine:"

"Because you're just standing there."

There's usually a bit more yelling.

If you remember while were in Portland two years ago I picked up a book from the library: Scream-Free Parenting. I ended up buying it around that time. It's quite amazing and has great techniques that I'm now trying with Aaron. He was just too young then in order for most of the techniques to work. But even Delaney is getting old enough, or seems mature enough, for some of the techniques. And they're SIMPLE!! So we are back on that bandwagon.

So I'm sitting here, drinking my coffee, waiting patiently for him to freak out about finding his Spider-Man in time to take to Daddy's holiday party at the hospital to show him. Because he "couldn't" find it in time before bed last night. 

It's hard not to just do it for him.